[Daily Writing] Which makes a better leader — one who is loved, or one who fears deeply? | Question #244 from “712 More Things to Write About”

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To answer the question, “Which makes a better leader?”, we must first define what a “good leader” truly is. A leader is someone who guides others — and to guide means there is a destination to reach. Therefore, a good leader is someone who helps their people reach that goal, together, all the way to the end.

From that perspective, if I had to choose between a person who is loved and a person who fears deeply, I would choose the one who fears. A leader who feels fear is aware of how much their decisions matter. They understand the weight of their influence and how each choice may ripple through the people they lead. A good leader feels fear because they know the responsibility it represents.

On the other hand, a person who is loved knows how to connect with others — understanding, caring, and empathizing with each individual. Their warmth earns affection, and their kindness builds trust. Yet, when someone in a leadership position tries to please everyone, the direction often gets lost. Like the saying, “Too many captains will steer the ship onto land,” a leader who listens to every voice equally may fail to move forward at all.

As a colleague, being loved is a virtue. But as a leader, if that love replaces clarity and conviction, it becomes a burden. A loved leader brings unity and stability, yes — but the moment that love turns into the need to satisfy everyone, the leader loses the very essence of leadership: guiding toward the destination.

In the end, when asked which makes a better leader — one who seeks love or one who understands fear — I would answer without hesitation: a good leader is one who knows fear, and leads despite it.

This article is the English version on Today 1 Step.

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